Living a life as a dark skinned Black woman is the most unique experience one can have. It’s comprised of both hyper-visibility and invisibility that comes with so much discrimination, mistreatment, and abuse. This life is made of a myriad of experiences that forces you to smarten up and pay attention to the world around you, we’re forced to mature a little faster for the sake of defending and protecting our humanity and womanhood.
It’s important to sit back sometimes and reflect, to collect the lessons that we’ve learned from the past in order to apply it to our daily lives and pass on the wisdom. And that’s what I aim to do today and for the rest of my life because the only people who are here to help dark skinned Black women, are dark skinned Black women.
Representation Is Still Scarce
I’ve become hyper-aware of colorism now because the lack of dark skinned representation sticks out like a sore thumb, it’s unavoidable to notice. I see it in everything I lay eyes on, whether it be television, film, or advertisements. There’s a reason why a lot of the new “Black” actresses we see are always mixed and light skinned. It’s become a reflex now for Black people to accept light skinned Black women as representation for all Black women because apparently that’s better than nothing. But that’s not enough, to simply accept crumbs for the sake of having a seat at the table. There’s plenty of dark skinned girls like myself who have grown up, and are still growing up, without the representation they need in order to develop a healthy sense of self-love and confidence. Lack of dark skinned representation can be detrimental to Black girls’ confidence and self-image in such a Eurocentric society and we need to acknowledge that and combat it in any way we can, if not for ourselves then at least for the younger ones who deserve more.