If you’ve ever felt bad about not being as pretty as another woman, or as funny, charming or talented, this article is for you. It’s hard not to compare yourself to other women when we live in such a cut-throat society. The most popular stories we hear are focused on the spectacular winners—whether winners of the business, exceptionally beautiful people, or particularly talented athletes or entertainers. Yet, the rules of competition are that there can only be one winner, which means a lot of people are going to “lose”, especially black women.
First of all, I’m going to explain WHY you feel the need to be exceptional. The truth is, this world has no place for average, unexceptional everyday black women. To be worth anything, we have to supercede white standards, to go above and BEYOND in every way and just be completely dazzling, jaw-dropping. Superhuman.
As unfair as it is, that’s what society asks of us.
The truth is, it’s taken me a long time to get to a place where I’m comfortable with just being an average black woman. To accept myself for being someone who the world often rejects. Here are some tips I’ve learned to help you cope with just being “average”: