While not every dark-skinned black girl grows up feeling under-appreciated and unattractive, many do. At this point, it’s an epidemic. For young black girls growing up in predominantly white spheres, it can be easy to feel undervalued and invisible to fellow peers and it’s even easier to fall into the habit of downplaying your worth and feeling less. Here are some tips to help you break out of the cycle of low self-esteem and start to feel your best:
1. Make Peace With Your Features And Hair Texture
It’s easy to fall into the if-only trap and believe that you’d be prettier if only your nose was slimmer, or your hair texture were a little less coily. It’s undeniable that society places those with more Eurocentric features on a pedestal; but, the truth is, beauty isn’t a monopoly that is only accessible to white and biracial people. Wide noses, thick lips, dark skin, coily hair and shapely bodies are beautiful, regardless of the toxic message that society sends about them.
The only way to build your self-esteem and develop confidence is to make peace with your features and hair texture, and to rock it as proudly and boldly as you can—regardless of what everybody else thinks. Hating your features, skin tone and hair texture is not going to make them disappear. Instead, it’ll only cause you to feel worse about yourself and tear down your sense of self-worth. Accepting yourself for the way that you look is the best way to overcome ‘ugly girl’ syndrome and begin to recognize how worthy and valuable you are.