Black mothers would demonstrate healthy parenting skills.
If you don’t like your child because his/her dad “ain’t shit,” if you’re mad that you have multiple children with multiple men and it’s tiresome, if you are angry you can’t go to Greece for a vacation because you have to take care of your children, I have news for you: Those are all YOUR choices. None of that is your children’s fault. Stop taking your regrets out on the children you willingly bore with whomever. Also, stop paying forward all the ways you were mistreated as a child. No, it wasn’t fair, but what good does perpetuating that behavior do? If you think breaking your child’s spirit is necessary because whoever raised you broke yours, then you don’t deserve children. I know plenty of loving women who cannot bear their own who would love the opportunity to.
Black women’s blind loyalty to black men would stop.
Because in all honesty, it’s not reaping any benefits for DSBW, and plenty of others have covered why, with the statistics on how we are getting the short end of the stick in that deal. Individual black men who are faithful, loving, and worthy? No problem with them. But those aren’t the same ones who are on TV or radio, profiting off of DSBW dollars while also burning us every chance they get.
This is not to say that gay people shouldn’t have rights, that transgenders should not have rights, or that feminism doesn’t have some important points…but the bridge from oppression to recognition seems to always be assembled on the backs of black women, and it’s tiring. We can support people on an individual level instead of in collective terms – when things become collective, other collectives wash us out, i.e. the natural hair movement, #MeToo, and we can go ahead and throw feminism in here too.