I remember a time where I used to be embarrassed about the way I looked, more specifically, my dark-mahogany complexion, plump lips and kinky hair. Such is definitely not the case in the present day as I adamantly refuse any physical alterations that make me look like less than what I am; Even down to not contouring my nose.
However, I have very close girlfriends who look very similarly to myself and I notice the ways that they and other black women are subtly apologizing for looking black. This can be in the ways we present ourselves, right down to the things we cosign. I think that we, as a collective should stop doing that.
So what are the ways that I see dark-skinned black women apologizing for how they look?
Well…the most obvious is the rejection and covering of our phenotype. This is something we all know and hear about and to me is much deeper than just wearing blonde or bone straight 28 inch weave. It’s about not wanting to wear reds, or other (tastefully done) color schemes because, it’s not for certain skin tones. It’s about pushing your dark-skinned daughter to pursue academics, keep their heads in the books, and school being their “boyfriends” but enrolling your lighter toned daughter in Ballet, Beauty Pageants etc ( Unless that is truly the preference of said child).